I was just listening to a conversation that spoke about how masculinity got re-framed as "toxic masculinity". Jefferey James, licensed professional counselor and works with men, women, and couples. He specializes in the consultation for trauma victims and PTSD, from the Ask a Brother podcast said on another Canadian podcast called Sharing My Truth, the following:
"I think you both have referenced it at one point about this concept of toxic masculinity. It doesn’t exist. It doesn’t exist. There’s toxic masculinity. I’m going to say it as clear as I can. Masculinity and femininity are descriptions of positive behaviors. In terms of care, nurture, provision, and protection. That's what it is. That's what being masculine means. That's what being feminine means. Either you're very nurturing and protecting or you're doing provision and protection. That's what it means to be ultra feminine or masculine. The actual terms, that's what they mean. They are affirmative. They are positive things. So when you're calling something a toxic version of it, that literally is an oxymoron. It's toxic people. There are men that do toxic things. There are women that do toxic things. But when a man steps outside of being a masculine man in a particular scenario, that's not a version of masculinity. He's just being a toxic individual. He's being a toxic man, but that's not toxic masculinity. The same thing applies; there's no toxic femininity. Either you're feminine or you're not. Either you're masculine or you're not." — Jeffery James, on Sharing My Truth podcast
Thank you so much for this post man it means a lot and I think that a lot of people don't really understand what toxic masculinity in the illusion around it is in a lot of mainstream society
I was just listening to a conversation that spoke about how masculinity got re-framed as "toxic masculinity". Jefferey James, licensed professional counselor and works with men, women, and couples. He specializes in the consultation for trauma victims and PTSD, from the Ask a Brother podcast said on another Canadian podcast called Sharing My Truth, the following:
"I think you both have referenced it at one point about this concept of toxic masculinity. It doesn’t exist. It doesn’t exist. There’s toxic masculinity. I’m going to say it as clear as I can. Masculinity and femininity are descriptions of positive behaviors. In terms of care, nurture, provision, and protection. That's what it is. That's what being masculine means. That's what being feminine means. Either you're very nurturing and protecting or you're doing provision and protection. That's what it means to be ultra feminine or masculine. The actual terms, that's what they mean. They are affirmative. They are positive things. So when you're calling something a toxic version of it, that literally is an oxymoron. It's toxic people. There are men that do toxic things. There are women that do toxic things. But when a man steps outside of being a masculine man in a particular scenario, that's not a version of masculinity. He's just being a toxic individual. He's being a toxic man, but that's not toxic masculinity. The same thing applies; there's no toxic femininity. Either you're feminine or you're not. Either you're masculine or you're not." — Jeffery James, on Sharing My Truth podcast
Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=ch3QWK3unZw
Thank you so much for this post man it means a lot and I think that a lot of people don't really understand what toxic masculinity in the illusion around it is in a lot of mainstream society